Divorce is a controversial issue among the follower of different religions. Some people believe that marriage in heaven and therefore human beings have no right to allow divorce. But, if a husband and wife really cannot live together, instead of leading a miserable life and generating more conflict, anger and hatred, they should have the liberty to seperate and live apart peacefully. Men and women must have the liberty to seperate if they really cannot agree with each other. Separation is preffered to suffering a miserable family life for a long period of time. Some may prefer legal separation which is a kind of divorce except that the marriage exists in name for various reasons.
Factors contributing to divorce vary. When the flame of love suddenly dies or when the 'love, honour and cherish each other for life' seems no longer possible to maintain, divorce appeas to be the best solution. Of course, there are others factors too, ranging from extra marital affairs, in-law problems as well as family differences faced by working mothers related to the pursuit of a career. Of the Buddha's advice that old men should not marry young wives as it can create incompatibility, jealousy and suspicion.
Under the Law Reform ( Marriage and Divorce) Act 1976, Marriage Tribunals have also been set up throughout Malaysia with functions to resolve and to reconcile couples. The Act makes it mandatory to refer a matrimonial difficulyt to the Marriage tribunal set up under the Act before a divorce petition can be filed. The Act provides a time frame of 6 months to see if the couple can reach a settlement. If there is no sign of reconciliation, the Tribunal will issued a certificate to that effect to the petitioner. It is only after the certificate is issused that a petitionar can filed a divorce petition in the High Court through a lawyer.
Unfortunately, when parents get divorced, their children become the innocent victims who suffer the worst consequences of that failed marriage. Divorce is a social phenomenon and is something which affects the children psychologically and could make them feel insecure. They have to cope with innumerable problems of acceptance, adjustment and insecurity.
Divorce parents are often portrayed as selfish hedonists interested only in their own happiness, and not their children's. Some may have to live with a step=parent when their parents remarry and will have to make new living arrangements. Divorce is almost like denying child the right to have a fulfiled life with both biological parents under one roof.
When a man for whatsoever reason institutes divorce proceedings it is the women who more often than not will be the most hurt in the process. Her cherished dream of a happy married life would be shattered, particulary so if the husband incolved in an extra-marital affiar is seeking release from the marriage to be with 'other women'. A women facing impending divorce would often express her frustrated feelings which is typical in such tragic cases: ' I was so devastated. For me the world had come to an end and i thought about dying to make him feel regret for not wanting me'.
So.....why wan to get marry when you know that possibility of a couple to get divorce is in such a high numbers nowadays..........??????
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